Tag Archives: getting engaged

Why Do Wedding Email Marketing Campaigns Attack Single Ladies?

1 Feb

I had no idea I was planning a wedding?

As a 27-year-old woman who is not married and not engaged, I am often treated like a science experiment by family, friends, and even random strangers who stop to gawk at my naked ring finger. They wonder when I’m getting engaged, when my wedding will be, and what exactly is wrong with me that I haven’t been able to secure a marriage proposal yet. While I sincerely want to slap anyone who asks me these super fun and exciting questions, I have grown somewhat used to getting grilled about this imaginary wedding.

I thought I’d experienced it all until I checked my email yesterday and found this little gem of a message waiting for me. I don’t know what genius signed me up as a newly engaged woman, but I sincerely appreciate the reminder that I am indeed not engaged. Thank you SHEfinds for adding my email inbox to the list of places that I must avoid (also including family reunions, wedding showers, high school reunions, other people’s weddings, and anywhere attracting groups of two or more middle-aged women),  in order to not feel like there’s something wrong with me because I’m not currently planning a wedding.

I gave this “congratulatory” email the benefit of the doubt as being simply a weirdo fluke, until I shared it with another no-ringed lady friend of mine. Apparently she has also received a number of these joyous messages, making her suspect that email marketing campaigns are targeting us because of our age. This certainly might be the case, but if so, aren’t they zeroing in on the wrong audience? We all know that a lady doesn’t buy her own engagement ring. I mean really, duh all you email marketing campaign managers. If you’re going to send out reminders about getting engaged, at least send them to the correct audience, a.k.a. the men.

“When Are you Getting Married?” – Combat the Awkward Question that Nosy People Love to Ask

28 Jul

When you hit a certain age, whether you’re in a relationship or not, people become obsessed with marrying you off. You may have solved world peace, won a Grammy, or have recently been promoted to become the youngest VP in your company’s history, but to some people these accomplishments don’t matter, because the fact that you’re not married is the only thing that does matter.

This is what a person's hand looks like when they don't want to discuss when they're getting married.

One of the most awkward, and just plain maddening questions that nosy people love to ask is ‘when are you getting married?’ Or, the equally invasive — ‘do you think you’ll be getting engaged soon?’ Try as I might, I cannot even begin to understand what possess people to think it’s okay to ask these questions.  As if it’s not bad enough to endure the third degree from these people alone, it’s even more fun when your significant other is standing right beside you.

Unless the person brings it up themselves, it is never okay to ask someone this. You may the person’s parent, sister, friend, great aunt, or my favorite — a complete stranger that they just met, but if you pester them with these questions they will start avoiding you. Why you might ask? Because you’re being annoying, and making them feel awkward and uncomfortable.

If you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation with nosy people throwing the ‘when are you getting married?’ or ‘do you think you’ll be getting engaged soon?’ question at you, it’s okay to be rude to them. They deserve it. If you opt to go for a more tactful approach, here’s some ideas to shut them up:

  • Tell them you’re already married and you didn’t invite them to the wedding.
  • Bust out with a nice “we hate each other.”
  • Claim to be gay, or trying to explore your sexuality.
  • Answer the question with a question. For example a nice comeback would be, “When are you going to lose 20 lbs?”
  • Explain that you’re waiting for your divorce to be finalized (only use this if the person knows that you’ve never been married).

Moral of the story: Do not ask someone when they’re getting engaged, unless you spot a man toting around an engagement ring. And unless you know that someone is already engaged, hence actually wearing an engagement ring on her finger, do not ask when she is getting married.